Is The Grass Really Greener?

It's those relationships that rest easy on the layers of years loaded with the past trials. People always want to skip ahead to the tightly bonded status without the years it takes to find that balance it takes to form that solid connection. Looking at older couples who can say they have been married for 50 plus years means looking at two people who decided to keep working things out over giving up and throwing in the towel.

Entering a relationship with someone takes work and years. Its great to be in the "honeymoon" phase for extended years but what's the goal? Too often one partner will want to have kids and rush down the aisle but what about the important details? How well do you play your part before demanding babies and marriage? I have listened to cries of wanting their relationships to move up to a deeper level but without the display of being ready for that role.

It's important to know the details, the size jeans and style they prefer, the style of underwear and their sizes. I mean think about it. His favorite jeans have a tear. You know the store he shops at and his size so why not just make a stop and buy a replacement pair or two. It does not need to be his birthday or an anniversary to step up and do the small things he hasn't made the time for.

The foods they don't like and ones they do. Learn how to make the foods they enjoy. Listen to the type of music they do and find some you like even if it's not an all the time favorite. How about their routines? It's important to respect their routines and goals. Let's avoid just saying you support them by also showing it and actually respect the times they allocate for what's important to them.

The same should be applied to you, avoid forgetting who you are by doing the things you enjoy and keep finding ways to challenge yourself and stay self-motivated. Pedicures, Spa Days, Ladies/Mom Night Out, Guys/Dad's Night Out, FootBall (sport) Parties, Couples Night, Game Night, etc.. always look for ways to stay grounded and social. Look for ways to continuously engage and learn more about another. You never stop learning in life, as people, we are always changing and growing. Stay connected with your partner by continuing to communicate and grow as a person and as a couple.

Sometimes our partners are not as romantically matured as we would like them to be. Sometimes they just have the attention span of a toddler. Maybe you question why things are going stale or stagnant. Sometimes instead of looking for arguments look for or just be the answer. I am not saying be the doormat but I am suggesting to learn when and how to pick your battles. Knowing who you are and what you stand for means knowing what you will tolerate and how you will handle what you will not.

Is the grass greener on the other side? Is your grass worth the time to properly feed and nurture? Are you skipping ahead with fertilizer?

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